My boyfriend has asked me to marry him, but wants me to wear his mom's ring!

October 2011
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My Question:

My boyfriend has asked me to marry him - but hasn't given me a ring. His mother suggests I wear her diamond engagement ring which, although is a kind thought, is not my style or taste whatsoever! I don't want to be ungrateful, but I really would like my own ring! How do I broach the subject?

Janet, Bedfordview.

Dear Janet,

Firstly, congratulations on your engagement! It is an exciting and bewildering time especially since family politics and preferences enter the fray!

Don’t despair about the engagement ring not being your style. What avout gently suggesting to her that you use her diamond and have a new setting made? We have many designers who can talk to you and come up with a new ring.

It is always a nice touch if your fiancé can buy you a diamond too – maybe even a little one, that you can incorporate into the design.

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